{"id":11173,"date":"2015-01-28T00:36:02","date_gmt":"2015-01-27T23:36:02","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.addkenmerken.net\/?p=11173"},"modified":"2019-10-03T09:33:56","modified_gmt":"2019-10-03T07:33:56","slug":"living-with-adhd-is-not-always-easy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.addkenmerken.net\/en\/leven-met-adhd-valt-niet-altijd-mee\/","title":{"rendered":"Living with ADHD is not always easy!"},"content":{"rendered":"<aside class=\"mashsb-container mashsb-main mashsb-stretched\"><div class=\"mashsb-box\"><div class=\"mashsb-count mash-large\" style=\"float:left\"><div class=\"counts mashsbcount\">985<\/div><span class=\"mashsb-sharetext\">shared<\/span><\/div><div class=\"mashsb-buttons\"><a class=\"mashicon-facebook mash-large mash-center mashsb-noshadow\" href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/sharer.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.addkenmerken.net%2Fen%2Fleven-met-adhd-valt-niet-altijd-mee%2F%3Futm_source%3Dsharebuttons%26utm_medium%3Dfacebook%26utm_campaign%3Dmashshare\" target=\"_top\" rel=\"nofollow\"><span class=\"icon\"><\/span><span class=\"text\">Share<\/span><\/a><a class=\"mashicon-twitter mash-large mash-center mashsb-noshadow\" href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/intent\/tweet?text=&amp;url=https:\/\/www.addkenmerken.net\/en\/?p=11173&amp;via=krachtvanADHD\" target=\"_top\" rel=\"nofollow\"><span class=\"icon\"><\/span><span class=\"text\">Tweet<\/span><\/a><div class=\"onoffswitch2 mash-large mashsb-noshadow\" style=\"display:none\"><\/div><\/div>\n            <\/div>\n                <div style=\"clear:both\"><\/div><\/aside>\n            <!-- Share buttons by mashshare.net - Version: 4.0.47--><h2>Me and my life with ADHD | chaos, chaos, chaos!<\/h2>\n<figure id=\"attachment_17301\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-17301\" style=\"width: 233px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"wp-image-17301\" src=\"https:\/\/www.addkenmerken.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/01\/Leven-met-ADHD-is-niet-altijd-makkelijk-Karin.jpg\" alt=\"Living with ADHD is not always easy - Karin\" width=\"233\" height=\"253\" title=\"\"><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-17301\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Karin<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>I am a mother of two and 32 years old. I have a good job as a social worker, counselling families. As an outpatient worker, I am on the road a lot and in my car I always make some phone calls, look outside, and drive way too fast, park my car somewhere, get a parking ticket but when I arrive I am too late and have a fine. When someone tells me we have to turn right I always look at my writing hand. I am also happy with spell check on phones, computers etc.<\/p>\n<p>My car is a mess, my workplace is a mess, my bag is a mess.... During conversations, I regularly blurt something out; I am confrontational but do not judge. In the office, I talk a little here, a little there and my administration time has also flown by. If meetings take too long, I get restless and start wobbling, need to go to the loo or want to get to the point! I don't like wasting my time.... I make a lot of jokes, am very quick and I am not easily talked down to! I am enthusiastic and have many interests, if something needs to be done, a training course, coaching a trainee, implementing a methodology, they come to me. I am always enthusiastic and know how to get things done. Sometimes I leave a whole coffee trail because I always spill and mess. Colleagues find me fun, driven and passionate and sometimes a bit crazy but definitely not boring. Clients find me reliable, funny, human, committed and honest. They accept my lateness and chaoticness because I discuss it. I go 100 no 1000 per cent for my families and they know it.<\/p>\n<p>I also go for my friends, I need variety, need to be able to go crazy with people and have a good time, climbing into things and shitting on everything. I need to feel alive!  So far, nothing wrong. These are bits of <a title=\"Known ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) characteristics\" href=\"https:\/\/www.addkenmerken.net\/en\/characteristics-of-adhd\/\">ADHD<\/a> which I just knew belonged to me and I had deployed it as skills.<\/p>\n<p>But so for six months now, I've known that I have ADHD and many pieces are falling into place....<\/p>\n<p>Because since I have a family with two children, I have been running into my own chaos and over-stimulation. More and more and more and with some deaths added, I suddenly found myself at home overworked.<\/p>\n<p>I live like a spear and experience my emotions intensely. I can feel terribly excited, down, soulful. But home for me was the place to land. To clean up the chaos around me and in my head... I don't clean up spot by spot but the whole house at once, everywhere and at once. I put on music and go with it, removing all stimuli to create chaos again from zero point. I do home the way it feels, I wake up when I want, go to sleep when I want, eat when I want. IK pound myself all over the garden, lose track of time and unwind. I have hundreds of ideas, some I start up and get totally absorbed in and some I release just as quickly.<\/p>\n<p>But now that I have children, I have to follow their structure, they have no room for me to spend a whole day running around in the garden. And tidying up the whole house doesn't work so well either. Constantly there are things, stimuli, noises and others to consider. I get stuck I have to go to bed on time, get up on time, feed the children and that takes a lot of effort. Besides, I have my husband who I have to work with and who asks me what my plans are. *&amp;^$* short-circuits because me head is too full. Still have to go to the shop, to the library, kids to school, call agencies, pay bills....<\/p>\n<p>Well and so then you run into yourself and your own chaos and the other people around me against me. My daughter is also so busy, doesn't sit still, talks a lot and doesn't have the patience to listen, and reacts immediately to stimuli. A light gradually went on for me and during my overstrain I asked for an ADHD test and indeed everything fell into place.<\/p>\n<p>Why structure is so important, why routine is so important, why making choices and taking knots is so important, how important <a title=\"Check out tip 2 on to-do lists\" href=\"https:\/\/www.addkenmerken.net\/en\/short-term-memory\/\">lists<\/a> for me, how important goals are for me because that's my handhold... Yes I have a lot to do!!!<\/p>\n<p>I am finally learning to cook, am still a fun and crazy person!<\/p>\n<p>Karin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n<p>Want to respond to Karin's story? 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