{"id":940,"date":"2014-02-19T10:02:05","date_gmt":"2014-02-19T09:02:05","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.addkenmerken.net\/blog\/?p=940"},"modified":"2019-09-30T16:04:20","modified_gmt":"2019-09-30T14:04:20","slug":"life-with-add","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.addkenmerken.net\/en\/levensloop-met-add\/","title":{"rendered":"Own fault or victim of ADD?"},"content":{"rendered":"<aside class=\"mashsb-container mashsb-main mashsb-stretched\"><div class=\"mashsb-box\"><div class=\"mashsb-buttons\"><a class=\"mashicon-facebook mash-large mash-center mashsb-noshadow\" href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/sharer.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.addkenmerken.net%2Fen%2Flevensloop-met-add%2F%3Futm_source%3Dsharebuttons%26utm_medium%3Dfacebook%26utm_campaign%3Dmashshare\" target=\"_top\" rel=\"nofollow\"><span class=\"icon\"><\/span><span class=\"text\">Share<\/span><\/a><a class=\"mashicon-twitter mash-large mash-center mashsb-noshadow\" href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/intent\/tweet?text=&amp;url=https:\/\/www.addkenmerken.net\/en\/?p=940&amp;via=krachtvanADHD\" target=\"_top\" rel=\"nofollow\"><span class=\"icon\"><\/span><span class=\"text\">Tweet<\/span><\/a><div class=\"onoffswitch2 mash-large mashsb-noshadow\" style=\"display:none\"><\/div><\/div>\n            <\/div>\n                <div style=\"clear:both\"><\/div><\/aside>\n            <!-- Share buttons by mashshare.net - Version: 4.0.47--><h2>My life journey with ADD, alcoholism and debt<\/h2>\n<figure id=\"attachment_15443\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-15443\" style=\"width: 325px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"wp-image-15443\" src=\"https:\/\/www.addkenmerken.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/02\/Thako-van-den-Heuvel.jpg\" alt=\"Thako&#039;s life with ADD\" width=\"325\" height=\"456\" title=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.addkenmerken.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/02\/Thako-van-den-Heuvel.jpg 235w, https:\/\/www.addkenmerken.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/02\/Thako-van-den-Heuvel-214x300.jpg 214w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 325px) 100vw, 325px\"><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-15443\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Portrait - Thako van den Heuvel<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>Actually, I just made a mess of it for the first 45 years of my life. Lots of mountains and valleys. From one success to the next low. Alcoholism and hefty debts. Partly due to a piece of soured youth. But in hindsight, that childhood and the rest of my life was also laced with all the <a title=\"characteristics of ADD\" href=\"https:\/\/www.addkenmerken.net\/en\/add-symptoms\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener \">characteristics of ADD<\/a>. Something I only got the 'official' confirmation for a few years back.<\/p>\n<p>Yet I continue to argue that I did make a mess of it myself. And in fact, I do this out of self-protection. Indeed, the moment I start throwing the entire 'blame' on ADD, there is a danger that I lose sight of the measures required. The term 'blame' is quickly followed by a tendency to feel like a victim.<\/p>\n<p>By now I know that I simply have to work with a good diary and to-do lists. That I should avoid being busy with too many things at once. That regularity is good for me. That alcohol - but also drugs - have extra risks for me. That I shouldn't drink coffee in the evening and should be careful with evening snacking. And furthermore, Ritalin can support me if I really get too busy (at the moment I am unemployed for a while and can manage just fine without it).<\/p>\n<p>I think it is good to keep facing the fact that I could have taken these perfectly logical measures years earlier and avoided a lot of misery. In that case, Ritalin could ultimately have only taken the final sharp edges off.<\/p>\n<p>As far as I am concerned, it is important to keep facing that own responsibility though. This remains the best way to avoid going back to the days when you knew nothing about it.<\/p>\n<p>Knowing you have ADD also means you have no more excuses.<\/p>\n<p>Want to respond to Thako's article. 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