{"id":9608,"date":"2014-04-23T11:45:00","date_gmt":"2014-04-23T09:45:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.addkenmerken.net\/?p=9608"},"modified":"2019-09-30T15:52:10","modified_gmt":"2019-09-30T13:52:10","slug":"ingrid-living-with-borderline-and-adhd","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.addkenmerken.net\/en\/ingrid-leven-met-borderline-en-adhd\/","title":{"rendered":"Ingrid's intense life with Borderline and ADHD"},"content":{"rendered":"<aside class=\"mashsb-container mashsb-main mashsb-stretched\"><div class=\"mashsb-box\"><div class=\"mashsb-count mash-large\" style=\"float:left\"><div class=\"counts mashsbcount\">114<\/div><span class=\"mashsb-sharetext\">shared<\/span><\/div><div class=\"mashsb-buttons\"><a class=\"mashicon-facebook mash-large mash-center mashsb-noshadow\" href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/sharer.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.addkenmerken.net%2Fen%2Fingrid-leven-met-borderline-en-adhd%2F%3Futm_source%3Dsharebuttons%26utm_medium%3Dfacebook%26utm_campaign%3Dmashshare\" target=\"_top\" rel=\"nofollow\"><span class=\"icon\"><\/span><span class=\"text\">Share<\/span><\/a><a class=\"mashicon-twitter mash-large mash-center mashsb-noshadow\" href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/intent\/tweet?text=&amp;url=https:\/\/www.addkenmerken.net\/en\/?p=9608&amp;via=krachtvanADHD\" target=\"_top\" rel=\"nofollow\"><span class=\"icon\"><\/span><span class=\"text\">Tweet<\/span><\/a><div class=\"onoffswitch2 mash-large mashsb-noshadow\" style=\"display:none\"><\/div><\/div>\n            <\/div>\n                <div style=\"clear:both\"><\/div><\/aside>\n            <!-- Share buttons by mashshare.net - Version: 4.0.47--><p><em>Submitted life story of Ingrid on her life with ADHD and Borderline<\/em><\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"color: #000000;\">A long and arduous treatment process for Borderline followed later by a diagnosis of ADHD<\/span><\/h2>\n<figure id=\"attachment_9660\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-9660\" style=\"width: 225px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-9660\" src=\"https:\/\/www.addkenmerken.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/04\/Borderline-persoonlijkheidsstoornis-BPS1-225x300.jpg\" alt=\"Borderline and ADHD, I don&#039;t like pigeonholing!\" width=\"225\" height=\"300\" title=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.addkenmerken.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/04\/Borderline-persoonlijkheidsstoornis-BPS1-225x300.jpg 225w, https:\/\/www.addkenmerken.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/04\/Borderline-persoonlijkheidsstoornis-BPS1.jpg 480w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 225px) 100vw, 225px\"><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-9660\" class=\"wp-caption-text\"><em>I have ADHD, I don't like frame life!<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>Since 1998, I was treated for BPS (<span style=\"font-weight: bold; color: #000000;\">Borderline personality disorder)<\/span>. Tons of medication that only made me 'crazier' and I don't know how many hours of treatment further I lost half my family, my relatives and many of my friends. My marriage on the rocks and cried an ocean of tears. Overcame depression and addiction. But always this inner turmoil and chaos in my head. Frenzied connections being made in my head. Never that emptiness people speak of with BPS, just overflowing. Which also leads me to\u00a0<span style=\"color: #3e454c;\">self-harm did<\/span>\u00a0(cutting yourself) since I was 11. 'Air holes!' I called it. So I understand how it was diagnosed but never looked further.<\/p>\n<p>After such disappointing treatment, I entered a grievance procedure and demanded a comprehensive investigation once after 14 years of treatment. I got my right and apology from this body. Now it appears that I <strong><a title=\"What is ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder)\" href=\"https:\/\/www.addkenmerken.net\/en\/characteristics-of-adhd\/\">ADHD<\/a><\/strong> have and if that is not treated first, other treatments for any other complaints are of no use. I could sue further in my complaints procedure but have decided for myself that I have already wasted too much time and money.<\/p>\n<p>With a lot of effort, especially in confidence (!), I have partnered with another smaller mental health institution and a world is opening up for me and I see light at the end of the still long tunnel. I am getting handy useful tips to learn to stop and structure myself. I will always have a tendency to ramble on. I know that now. But I am finally being handed some reins! pfhoe! What a relief! And now practice!!! Trying to give the grief for what I lost a place and build a whole new future. It's a new day , it's a new live and I'm feeling ... changing LOL!<\/p>\n<p>I am writing this publicly because I would like to share that it is Ooh So important to stay in control of your own life, even with institutions. And I want to denounce that I find it scandalous that if you are ill and dependent on counselling services, you as a person and your diagnosis are treated in such a lax and facile manner. For instance, for years I thought I was being treated by a psychologist while having 'supportive conversations' with a psychiatric nurse. Hence, she never wanted to go deeper into topics when I asked. I was passive for far too long and underwent my 'treatment'. (What do you want when you are depressed?!)<\/p>\n<p>Unfortunately, no one around me has raised the alarm either.<br \/>I have had to struggle through these years together with the children. The children who no doubt also took quite a beating from this. Not to mention the BJZ's intervention, which left sooooo much to be desired. We don't trust any of them, unfortunately. But what doesnt kill you makes you stronger!<\/p>\n<p>What I want to say ...<br \/>Cuts in healthcare ????<br \/>INVEST!!!<br \/>Make care work efficiently!!!<br \/>THAT SCREAMS!!!<br \/>That's why I do want to butt out if anyone ... even anyone learns anything from it!<\/p>\n<p>Greetings Ingrid<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-uagb-marketing-button uagb-marketing-btn__outer-wrap uagb-marketing-btn__align-center uagb-marketing-btn__align-text-center uagb-marketing-btn__icon-before\" id=\"uagb-marketing-btn-bc07d9fd-afab-465d-bd82-96e12407b527\"><div class=\"uagb-marketing-btn__wrap\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.addkenmerken.net\/en\/category\/life-stories\/\" class=\"uagb-marketing-btn__link\" target=\"\" rel=\"noopener \"><div class=\"uagb-marketing-btn__title-wrap\"><h6 class=\"uagb-marketing-btn__title\">View all submitted life stories here<\/h6><\/div><div class=\"uagb-marketing-btn__prefix-wrap\"><p class=\"uagb-marketing-btn__prefix\"><\/p><\/div><\/a><\/div><\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Submitted life story of Ingrid on her life with ADHD and Borderline A long and arduous treatment process for Borderline followed later by the diagnosis of ADHD Since 1998, I was...<\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":9660,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"_kad_post_classname":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[552,1506,1132,1162],"tags":[6,906,904,910,46,478],"class_list":["post-9608","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-levensverhalen","category-add-adhd","category-adhd-artikelen","category-volwassenen-met-add-adhd","tag-adhd","tag-adhd-en-borderline","tag-borderline","tag-ggz","tag-medicatie","tag-medicijnen"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.addkenmerken.net\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9608","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.addkenmerken.net\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.addkenmerken.net\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.addkenmerken.net\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.addkenmerken.net\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=9608"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.addkenmerken.net\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9608\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.addkenmerken.net\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/9660"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.addkenmerken.net\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=9608"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.addkenmerken.net\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=9608"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.addkenmerken.net\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=9608"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}