Borderline and ADHD, I don't like pigeonholing!

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  1. Een late reactie, maar je kent ons adhd’ers he? Een artikel leidt tot het volgende en ben inmiddels aan privacy verklaring begonnen ;) Wat fijn dat je je verhaal deelt. Ik heb namelijk ook net de diagnose adhd. En ook bij mij kreeg ik eerst de diagnose borderline. Tranen met tuiten ineens omdat zóveel ellende bespaard had kunnen blijven. Je krijgt best een knak wanneer je een ‘persoonlijkheidsstoornis’ hebt, m.a.w. er is iets mis met je. Vaarwel kansen, mensen, en chille dingen [insert S&Garfunkel- “hello darkness my old friend’)
    So thanks for sharing, must have taken some courage. Who knows, one day when you are healed and have energy, you might make a nice amount of money, or not, and leave it behind you with your feet in the sand and your head in the sun. Wonder how t are you doing now? Sun salutation, Laura

    1. Hi I only read your post now.
      I get no notification when someone has replied to my post.Things are not going well at the moment.
      Ik schreef in het verhaal al dat het allemaal z’n weerslag op de kinderen heeft gehad.
      Now my adult son also struggles with impulsivity,distractibility and agression.
      Hij is niet zo heel goed bezig geweest(zacht uitgedrukt!) …maar is volgens hem nu op het goede pad.
      He does not want to acknowledge that he has ADHD /ODD.
      Which has been established in the past after psychodiagnostic testing.
      His father thinks I am giving him a complex.
      I feel powerless because I would like to help him but I know he can only help himself.
      Now I have to watch idly as he struggles as I used to.
      Niet te doen!…waardoor mijn emotieregullatie weer overhoop ligt.
      Het lijkt nooit op te houden maar ik doe m’n best niet fatalistisch te denken.
      Met de spreuk in mijn hoofd “aan het einde komt alles goed en als het niet goed is is het nog niet het einde”…maar er zijn dagen dat die instelling me erg zwaar valt.
      I have my own life well in hand now.
      I am living mindfull and finally getting the hang of that too.
      I learnt a lot from gardening and cooking.
      Best therapy ever!!!
      But how well can it go with a mother whose child is not doing well?
      Hope you are doing well and thanks for your sweet comment!
      And idd feet in the sand and head in the sun and through!!!
      Love!

  2. “Amen”
    Is alles wat ik kan bedenken te schrijven….
    Jouw verhaal zou net zo goed dat van mij knn zijn…
    Durf t haast nt te zegggen maar moest tot 2x toe gedrogeerd w in mn eigen woonst en, hoogst ws, verkracht als gevolg. Al kan ik er niks over zeggen, ik weet t ni meer. Maar vol blauwe plekken sta je toch nt zomaar, volgens mij….
    Veel verdriet heb ik maar ik ben er nog. En zoals de schrijver van “De Davinci Method” treffend zegt, ‘you have found your tribe. You are finally home…’, ben ik er ei zo na bijna dankbaar voor. Ik ben er zeker nog lang nt maar n beginstapje (die tje is moeilijk) is heel mss toch voorzichtig (ben ik toch n beetje geworden na meer dan 2oj ervaring), gezet. Dus. Phoe, wat n zin. Yeah, thats me….
    Thank you for sharing your story. Very painful for you but then again how healing for me. Thank you!

    1. Wishing you much strength and courage in your process!
      Sorry for the late response.
      I hope you've come a long way by now.
      When I look back, I do see some gradual improvement.
      We do have to be patient , and that s not so easy for us LOL

  3. How good that you dare to share this like this!

    Living with Borderline and ADHD, I know all about it.
    In addition, I also have panic disorder. Have been to 3 different agencies, and they have finally figured out that it is not depression, but these 3. Used to be very busy and chaotic as a child, but they never diagnosed me with ADHD. I think it would have saved me a lot of drama and misery if this had been known earlier.
    But oh well, better late than never.

  4. Unfortunately, I am now in the situation of having to choose between admission to a clinic for Borderline behaviour with supportive medication or picking up my life and trying medication for ADD. I have been seen by two doctors. One doctor thinks I have ADD and the other doctor is almost certain it is Borderline. The medication and treatment varies a lot.
    What can I do with this?

  5. I am 46 years old,in January 47 years young,since the last ten years I know about borderline so personality disorder
    since this summer 2016 they have told me I have adhd
    now I understand everything
    needs to process a lot
    feel sad
    am mourning the missed opportunities
    but I keep fighting
    behind that thick muir,there is a big sun
    now just grit your teeth ,,,,weeral
    and will get better or just a little easier
    and then
    then you should still say to yourself

    BETTER LATE THAN NEVER

    yours sincerely katia

  6. I would be interested to know which site that is Charly, though.
    If you send me a link I can watch m before you post it.
    Greetings Ingrid.

  7. Hi,
    Interesting piece. I would like to put it on my site. But of course I only want to do that if I get permission. Maybe you would also like to keep a blog on this site?
    Greetings Charly

  8. I also heard that statement often in my last period at Mediant.
    I don't think we can do anything more for you, was said a few times.
    I then looked for a while in the alternative circuit but didn't quite find it either.
    And it was not affordable for me.
    I did learn a lot about nutrition there and that helps.
    now I am at GGZ Max Ernst, a smaller more personal rural institution,and am satisfied so far.
    I got my turn quickly and I especially like the ability to do online assignments and be in touch with your practitioner.
    As long as there is someone willing to take the time to take you seriously.
    I wish you much strength in your further journey Heintje

  9. Seems very recognisable to me.

    Have adhd with bordi traits myself..and also had frequent bungling with ggz ..especially due to budget cuts ..and me treatment has been stopped..they can't do anything for me anymore.

    Maar heb nu hulp van maatschappelijk werksters die me ondersteuning geven..want de zorginstellingen zijn er niet meer ervoor.. tis bezuinigingen periode en vele cliënten worden uitbehandeld.

    Kind Regards Heintje