Hey I have ADD! (life story Anke)

Bye Jochem,

Thanks for your tips via the newsletter.

I am not doing much with it yet because I am still in the middle of accepting/accustoming to ADD zit. In mid-July this year, my eldest 18-year-old daughter said in a conversation, "But mum, you just have ADD!". I had no idea what that was, ADD? ADHD ok, I know that, but ADD? From her mobile she listed a feature list on and that was BINGO! on all features.

I was perplexed, this was what I had been looking for for so long. At lightning speed, all sorts of puzzle pieces fell into place. And I am 50 you know, had actually made peace with my "craziness", my otherness. And maybe that's why it was great that my daughter, who had talked about it with my eldest son and his girlfriend, came up with this. While before that I finally accepted myself in my ?otherness?

The added value of knowing is that there is now some kind of explanation. That I can see myself in a different light, no longer have to be so harsh about things that don't work out for me. It is also painful, it would have been easier if I had realised it earlier. Might have allowed me to make different choices.

I remember well as a child, but also later, I used to argue because I really needed to be alone for a while, completely without interference. This was often not honoured and then I would just freak out, get angry, run away, etc. Small example.

The added value is also that I understand myself but also my mother much better. (She has it too, I'm sure) And I'm really happy that I can support my children in this too if they have it. Odds are. They all know, of course, and that will hopefully make their lives a little easier.

Greetings, perhaps until another time,

Anke