ADD and HSP, From hot to burnout!
AD(H)D or HSP and are you also always trying to live up to others' expectations?
I have known since 2010 that I have ADD, or AD(H)D with the H in brackets.
Many puzzle pieces fell into place in the colourful mosaic of my past. Especially since I no longer lived at home with my parents, I hopped from job to job, experienced many love breaks, moved around a lot and sometimes fell from one thing to another. I did feel that I was not quite the same as others.
Constantly wanting to meet the expectations of others and mostly tiptoeing around me meant that after a number of years, I suffered a solid burnout.
And the consequence of NOT being aware of the disorder ADD, the consequence of not knowing you have it, is that I had developed an anxiety disorder you could say hello to. Citalopram managed to reduce this for about 2 years.
Since this also involves High Sensitivity, (note the symptoms of ADD come here and there with the characteristics of HSP agree), I am now mostly listening to my body.
What helps me now in my life with ADD and HSP
Little things like drinking Rooibos tea, not too much coffee (!) and preferably also no more in the evening and consuming a glass of wine also in moderation?not too much sugar or too much salt and/or ready-to-eat meals are tips that can already help n little bit.
What I also do now is to reduce the overstimulation, which I often experience at the end of the day, by taking my RUST. For me, it piles up in my head by the day and at a good moment, I'm fed up. And then I know the moment when I pull the brake and think: Ho, Stop?
Recharge your energy battery if you have the opportunity to do so, do something for yourself, quiet your mind, turn off the TV a bit earlier, don't sit at your laptop for too long, try to be creative, listen to beautiful music you love, go dancing :-) .
I wouldn't immediately say go read a book, because I personally struggle to get those out. I usually start it and then put the book away again.
In any case, don't let the current society In which there is so much to do.
Try to surround yourself with people who are not affected by your ADD and HSP, otherwise you are once again overcompensating and 'tiptoeing' to meet expectations that you are not going to sustain in the long run anyway.
Frightened by it is currently experiencing t same ...
Have also had many jobs every time after 2-3 years I moved on because I felt bad and thought t was because of that....
Now I have t again feel severely unhappy but have no reason to....
Lots of crying and is such a rotten feeling....
Past I fled into new job etc and then t went again ...
Going to call GP about this anyway....
Already take lto 3 but still feel rotten....
How sad that you feel this way, that too is recognisable to me.
Visiting your GP is always good, my experience is only that if you are referred to the mental health service that you are then 'helped' on medication.
I do not take medication, do run into ADD drawbacks daily, but I can deal with them better now.
Maybe you are HSP and at least you don't have to take medication for that.
HSP: then you are a special person in this world.
Listen to your body, take regular rest and maybe the job you have now might not be what you always wanted to do before after all ?
I was a secretary/receptionist for a long time, but I wouldn't really want to do that now: sitting behind a computer all day and hardly getting off your chair actually :-( .
Would t prefer to start a shop.
Good luck with everything!
I have known for a year that I have adhd and recognise myself so much in your story. Sometimes it seems like you're on a rollercoaster and there's no stopping it... I've been at home for a year now with a burn-out. Thought for a while that I had my body back in control but unfortunately had to take another big step back. What I often come up against is the lack of understanding from those around me.
You can't see anything on the outside so there's nothing there. ... Am also diagnosed with fibromyalgia 14 years ago so was quite used to a lot in that.
It will come again all in due time. ... Additional problem: I am a single mother of 3 daughters, 2 with adhd and 1 with add..... Pretty busy at times if I do say so myself.
But wouldn't miss my girls for anything, as I am Super proud of everything they have already achieved.
Good luck with everything!
Wow...a single mother with 3 daughters, what a strong woman you are.
I'm proud of you, can I say that ?!
Am a mother myself :-) .
Good luck overcoming your burnout.
Have only known about my ADD (am 49...)
Became 'wise' by trial and error after 2 burnouts even to ME.... By making high demands on myself and meeting expectations of others.... Now that I know, I keep it in mind and do take my rest.
Reading actually calms me down provided it is an exciting or captivating story and not too long in a row.
It does help though when you finally know what you 'have'...I myself am now 45 and heard about it a few years ago.
You can now start reading good books on ADD and give things a place. Very enlightening and instructive.
Very recognisable, lack of understanding is what has always bothered me the most, now I can usually get over it. Listen to your body even if "society" sometimes doesn't let you.
Best of luck!!!
Totally true yes and lack of understanding from the environment has also been my stumbling block. Good luck!