What is the point of labelling?
A question on which there is much to argue. Some people find it necessary to label people who exhibit 'different kind' of behaviour in order to place it that way. Still others say: 'it is part of the being itself' and there is nothing wrong with that! But what is the ultimate goal of the labels I wonder then? You would say it is to be able to help people get social life back on track.
I myself sometimes encounter people who use the term ADD or ADHD use as an excuse to excuse themselves in situations of misunderstanding. Totally unnecessary I would say! In my opinion, it is more of an ignorance of the person naming it and not coping with the behaviour. In such a situation, the idea is to understand each other better and get on with the day. But then, I am someone who was labelled a long time ago and so I have had (taken) a long time to place it.
But what bothers me is that a term has to be used for it. As soon as that happens, it's like denying a part of yourself, putting it at a distance. And then you are only further from home. Whereas precisely when you feel you have to adapt because certain behaviour is not accepted, you don't want to run away from it but want to tackle it. But then the little voice in your head may come up: 'you have to fit in with the group!', 'you have to make sure others like and understand you!', 'success is important!' etc.
In the end, no one benefits if you give in. Because if you adapt yourself you don't give full the energy you can give and the person you are doing it for doesn't actually have anything to gain from you that way either. Now it is easier said than done, because if you don't adapt yourself then you will get a lot of hate and you will have to stand strong in your shoes. Only at the end of the day, you can look yourself straight in the eye and say "I did my best". In my opinion, that's what stands up in the long run and not the approval of others, because that disappears as fast as the wind and then you can start all over again.
So to answer the question: 'Does AD(H)D exist?'
It exists as long as you believe it exists (positively or negatively).