My life journey with ADD, alcoholism and debt
Actually, I just made a mess of it for the first 45 years of my life. Lots of mountains and valleys. From one success to the next low. Alcoholism and hefty debts. Partly due to a piece of soured youth. But in hindsight, that childhood and the rest of my life was also laced with all the characteristics of ADD. Something I only got the 'official' confirmation for a few years back.
Yet I continue to argue that I did make a mess of it myself. And in fact, I do this out of self-protection. Indeed, the moment I start throwing the entire 'blame' on ADD, there is a danger that I lose sight of the measures required. The term 'blame' is quickly followed by a tendency to feel like a victim.
By now I know that I simply have to work with a good diary and to-do lists. That I should avoid being busy with too many things at once. That regularity is good for me. That alcohol - but also drugs - have extra risks for me. That I shouldn't drink coffee in the evening and should be careful with evening snacking. And furthermore, Ritalin can support me when I really get too busy (at the moment I am unemployed for a while and can manage just fine without it).
I think it is good to keep facing the fact that I could have taken these perfectly logical measures years earlier and avoided a lot of misery. In that case, Ritalin could ultimately have only taken the last sharp edges off.
As far as I am concerned, it is important to keep facing that own responsibility though. This remains the best way to avoid going back to the days when you knew nothing about it.
Knowing you have ADD also means you have no more excuses.
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